Finding a Person
There are several different reasons why you might go about looking for somebody. You might be playing hide and seek, you might be a stalker, or you might be trying to reconnect with someone you lost touch with and haven’t seen in forever. Sometimes finding a person can be as easy as checking that wardrobe that’s the best hiding place in the house, and other times no matter how many records and acquaintances you go through, that person continues to elude your reach. Some people are found and other people you lose forever and they only remain in your memories.
Having the means easily available for finding a person can be a good thing or bad thing depending on the situation. It would be great if you could find your long lost preschool buddy in a cinch, but it would be horrible if an overzealous admirer readily obtained your phone number and place of residence. It’s a double edged sword or a two way street in the way that elite hackers could either save the country or devastate it, or how advancing technology means increased complacency. It can go either way, or there’s a price to pay, and meanwhile you’re not able to get in touch with your old college roommate no matter how many Facebook friends you’ve been going through because it’s not that simple. That’s a bad thing, but if it’s any condolence it might not be such a bad thing after all.
You might ask yourself whether finding a person is worth the effort. It’s definitely worth a try, but it might not be worth turning over every rock if all other efforts seem to be failing. Consider what it would be like once you met. It could be a really emotional, heartfelt experience or it could be totally awkward. If you knew each other from a long time ago, people change and things might not be the same if you try to pick up where you left off.
There’s also what happens after to think about. After finding a person, are you going to continue to see them again, or is it just a one time thing? The implications would vary according to the nature of your relationship—consider the situation of keeping in touch with your former classmate versus keeping in touch with your birth mother.
Some things are worth finding, and some things are better left to rest. You can’t change the past, but you can have a part in determining where you go from here and who you interact with, and these kinds of decisions are the ones that our lives are forged with.